"Women try to one-up each other when it comes to weight, looks and clothes. Men compete over money and salary."This quote really struck home with me, as I know that I have had particularly unhealthy friendships in the past where the focus has been "who is the skinniest", "who has the nicest clothes" and "who is the prettiest". All these comparisons only serve one purpose: to bring us down!
I've written previously on why I utterly loathe going to the gym - precisely for this reason. I'm constantly comparing myself to others and in turn feeling like an utter failure! In addition to affecting my confidence - I found myself judging others! I don't know what it is that makes us compare ourselves with others in this way, but we definitely need to focus more on the positives, rather than the negatives! For me, the gym environment breeds these thoughts in my head, which is why I avoid it!
Instead of competing against each other, we need to encourage each other! This is one of the reasons why I love the blogging community SO much - because it enables me to interact with others in a positive way!
Abby has posted a challenge this week and I wanted to share it with all of you. The challenge is:
- Compliment a stranger – You can do this in person (while running errands, at the gym, etc.) or leave a note (on a dinner check, a post-it stuck to a mirror, etc.).
- Compliment a friend – Call them up, send a letter, or do it in person.
- Compliment yourself – Sit down and think – What is it that I do well? What do I love about myself? Then say it out loud and remind yourself of it on a regular.
So this is my challenge to myself and to all reading this post!
I hope everyone has a fantastic rest of the week and enjoy the remainder of the Olympics!